Please read what I wrote on this board about this subject. Yes, exactly those posts which led to Oscar Guy accusing me of being a rapist or a potential rapist and implying that I should be banned, to Sonic Youth, Uri and others attacking me in a more subtle but I'd say even nastier way, and most here - except a few who were suppotive either publicly or privately - being cowardly silent. My God, some even wrote about their (certainly terrible) experences on this subject as if I had personally done those to them! At the same time, that confirmed my fears: the witch-hunt had started, as I knew it would.
I had expressed very balanced, very obvious truths. Truths which I knew about because I have a life - I do live, and I know how varied and potentially ambiguous this subject can be, and that while certain acts are OBVIOUSLY wrong, and should be toughly punished (preferably by justice rather than on the web), there is also a grey area which is extremely dangerous and subtle, and can be used either intentionally or even unintentionally in the worst possible way. For the simple reason that while I love sex (unlike, I feel, most of my accusers here I have a very healthy sexual life), I also know how, let's say, complicated it can be. Fascinatingly complicated, I'd add - but still so complex that each case is different, and general theories unfortunately (oh, how simple they are, and how easy it would be if thet could be always applied!) can't exist.
The hysteria here (more American and Israeli than European, I must say) meant that I just had to wait, and soon facts would have confimed my fears. And this is, of course, what's happening now. Some were annoyed when I didn't feel moved by those stars dressed in black at the Golden Globes. I found that hypocritical, and I still feel that way. Some compared such movements to the civil-rights protests of the 60s. I smiled - a sad smile - because I knew that it wasn't the same thing. Definitely not.
Most importantly - there is (I must choose words carefully because Oscar Guy otherwise will have a heart attack) a physical aspect in sex. (This is why I'm not sure that those who attacked me have a healthy sexual life). A contact of bodies which can be sometimes playful, sometimes rough, sometimes even aggressive, and sometimes downright clumsy (one can make mistakes, and maybe for example try to kiss someone who doesn't really want that. Embarassing, of course - but is that sexual harassment)? If one - I repeat: intentionally or not - starts considering these and other thousands different sexual aspects as rape, not only the result is a damage to innocent people, but also a damage to a cause which is, I repeat, right and justified - a damage to the REAL victims of rape and sexual harassment.
And even our own reaction to sexual harassment especially is so... subjective. Oh, before someone says it: sexual harassment is always WRONG if it is REAL - even more wrong if done to those who are in a lower position or who are simply weaker (children, employees, women etc). But even the victims' reaction can be different. When I was much younger - and maybe more attractive than I am now, but definitely more naive - I, like everyone, was groped by strangers in crowded buses, and once assaulted by a married man in his car. Was it annoying? Yes. Was it a tragic shock which marked me for life and still inflences my view of sex? Of course not. I will always defend those who can be hurt by experiences like these - but I personally can't play the role of the tearful victim, I wouldn't be honest, because frankly I considered those as not pleasant but in a way important lessons of life. And life isn't always smooth and easy.
Oh, now the sexophobes will react again. But can I be honest again? In a case of sexual harassment, if I were part of a jury, I feel I'd me more qualified than those who keep attacking me here. Mora balanced, certainly.